Dating with your whole self

A nervous-system-grounded dating guide for AuDHD women

$20.00

Dating shouldn’t feel like emotional survival.

If you’re an autistic or ADHD woman, dating may have left you feeling:

  • emotionally flooded after dates

  • confused by mixed signals

  • guilty for needing clarity

  • attached faster than you intended

  • exhausted from trying to “do dating right”

Not because you’re doing something wrong —
but because most dating advice ignores how your nervous system works.

You don’t need to push through discomfort.
You don’t need to mask better.
You don’t need to become less sensitive.

You need guidance designed for your brain and body.

Introducing

Dating with Your Whole Self

A practical, nervous-system-informed guide to help AuDHD women date with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust — without masking or burning out.

This guide is built around 11 grounding rules that help you slow down attachment, recognize emotional safety, and stay connected to yourself while dating.

Not by forcing confidence —
but by understanding what your body is responding to.

Why this guide exists

After my autism diagnosis at 30, I finally understood why dating felt so intense.

I wasn’t “too much.”
I wasn’t bad at relationships.
I was following rules that worked against my nervous system.

So I began identifying the boundaries, pacing, and clarity practices that actually supported me — emotionally and physically.

Those principles helped me stop masking, stop chasing confusion, and choose safer, steadier connections.
They’re also what helped me build the relationship I’m in today.

This guide is the system I wish I’d had earlier.

What’s inside

The 11 core rules help you:

  • slow emotional attachment before it takes over

  • recognize red flags before you bond

  • stop confusing intensity with connection

  • stay regulated while getting to know someone

  • choose clarity over anxiety

You’ll also find:

  • đźš© Red flags explained across 4 dating stages

  • 🧠 Nervous-system regulation tools for dating stress

  • đź’¬ 50+ communication scripts for difficult moments

  • đź“ť Worksheets to define your personal boundaries

  • đź’” Guidance for ghosting, endings, and detaching safely

  • đź‘Ą Scripts for family, social, and relational dynamics

  • ✨ Green-flag markers for emotionally safe partners

  • 🎭 A masking recognition guide to help you stop performing

This guide is for you if:

  • you’re late-diagnosed or self-diagnosed AuDHD

  • dating leaves you anxious, attached, or depleted

  • you keep excusing inconsistent or unavailable behavior

  • you struggle to trust your instincts

  • traditional dating advice feels confusing or harmful

Why this approach works

  • Nervous-system-aware
    Every rule is grounded in regulation, pacing, and emotional safety.

  • Practical, not performative
    You get clear frameworks and scripts — not vague encouragement.

  • Respectful of sensitivity
    Your needs aren’t treated as flaws. They’re treated as information.

  • Built from lived experience
    This isn’t theory. It’s what I learned through real dating, diagnosis, and repair.

What readers say

“This helped me stop blaming myself for needing clarity. The scripts alone changed how I communicate.”
— Sarah M.

“Dating finally makes sense to me. I wish I’d had this years ago.”
— Jessica T.

“I understand my patterns now — and I can actually interrupt them.”
— Amanda K.

“This felt grounding, not overwhelming. Exactly what my brain needed.”
— Riley P.

After reading, you’ll be able to:

  • recognize emotional safety vs. anxiety

  • set boundaries without over-explaining

  • stop masking to be chosen

  • trust your body’s signals

  • date with steadiness instead of urgency

  • choose relationships that support your nervous system

30-day guarantee

If this guide doesn’t support you, email me for a full refund.

From me

I spent years trying to explain myself to people who didn’t want to hear me.
I stayed longer than I should have.
I blamed myself for feeling overwhelmed.

This guide is what helped me stop abandoning myself in dating.

If you’re ready to date with clarity instead of confusion —
this is your starting point.

— Grazielle Balbi
AuDHD Dating Coach
@audhd.dating.coach

Your nervous system deserves safety

Not performance.
Not confusion.
Not emotional whiplash.

Just clarity, steadiness, and choice.